On Death

This weekend has been a sad one. I read columns, people recollecting stories of lost loved ones. I saw photos, footage of people who died. I heard eulogies of the departed souls. I went to watch a play that was in memory of an actor who passed on. I accompanied my mother to a wake. This was the hardest part, I was afraid I would burst in tears. I didn't believe I was strong enough. I would've never gone through with it was it not for her persistence.

Until you loose someone quite close to you, it is difficult to say you understand death. Death is cruel and harsh. No one is fully able to understand the pain. The only way its better is if no one died. Everyone of us will die one day, so let no one fool you. But some of them leave us too fast, the vacuum too big. For this reason, we have always prayed for them. We ask God to give the peaceful rest. With the knowledge that it was His will and that He gives His strength and power that we may endure everything.

At the wake I sat at the back of the room, we had a mini service. Somewhere through, a few close people were asked to give their condolence speeches. Some, were really heartfelt , simple, yet very beautiful. But others were insensitive, depressing even. I was mad, angry, devastated. I can personally confess that am not the best with words in such situations. You must at least put yourself in ones shoes and such isn't easy.

A young girl lost her mother, only child, single mom. On the occasion, she left home for work as usual. Unfortunately there was a chase between police and some criminals and a stray bullet hit her directly on her heart. On hearing this story, I just thought hey maybe she was just at the wrong place at the wrong time. Death was too early. Since we received the news I have had a stomach ache. Tears threatening my eyes. A day hasn't passed that I haven't  thought of that young girl. My heart breaks for her.

Grief and mourning was the order of the day. You think its over, then with the stories shared comes running streams of tears. You try to understand and its worse, so your left with just being positive.

Someone wrote on the condolence book, ' We loved you but God loved you more'.
How offensive!!!!! I almost cancelled this, I thought of tearing the page or crossing it over.

Another, said, ' The Lord gives and He takes.'
How? How do you make a young girl think so ill of God ? Do you think she will love God for taking away the mother! On the contrary she will hate Him for taking away her only parent. I seriously considered giving a lecture of what people should say at funerals.

God loves us, and it was His will that we live forever. Sin separated us from that plan. Our loved ones do not die because God has plucked His finest from His garden. It is the work of the devil, he plans to separate us from the love of God. Give thanks for everyday that your alive.
Death is an enemy, It doesn't care about your family, career, loved ones or you. It is a thief, It doesn't give TIME, leaves you lonely and most importantly sad. It will remain as it is A THIEF !!!!


It is well .....

Ivanress